When it comes to relationships, there is no one-size-fits-all answer to the question of how many dates it takes before you can officially call it a relationship. Every couple is different, and the amount of time it takes to get to know someone and decide if you want to be in a relationship with them varies. However, according to licensed clinical social worker Sarah Kahan, most couples require 5 to 6 dates before they can make it official. When it comes to determining if you're ready for a relationship, there are certain signs you should pay attention to.
According to Kahan, by the second or third date, you should have a good idea of whether or not you like the person and if they are a good match for you. This means that it may take fewer dates than expected to reach the stage where you are seeing someone exclusively. In addition, having conversations in person is much more beneficial than exchanging messages back and forth. The sheer volume of words exchanged in person can help build connections much faster than if you spread out your conversations over several dates.
When it comes to being exclusive, this means that you don't hang out with other people and don't engage in any physical or sexual activities with anyone else. To sum up, there is no set number of dates that you need to go on before entering into a relationship. If after four or five dates, you feel hurt or annoyed because your partner has plans with someone else, it's time to have a conversation about your relationship status. Ultimately, if it's been difficult for you to get those ten dates in due to anything other than scheduling conflicts, then it may not be worth pursuing.