Most couples have 5 to 6 dates before they start discussing a relationship, and some may take even longer. Don't worry if you have had a few dates - this is in line with the 1 to 3 month timeline that is common for many people. As a general rule, two months should be a safe amount of time to bring up the topic. However, every relationship is different, so if you feel ready before that, go ahead.
If it doesn't seem right at that stage, there are some steps you can take to prepare for the conversation. That's why Conti says it is essential not to rush too quickly the first time you go out with someone. While there is no exact amount of time, she suggests waiting one to three months before making the relationship exclusive. Five weeks of someone's time is a lot to “waste” if things don't work out.
But if you are seriously considering this as a potential relationship, then there is no need to rush anyway, right? If it has been difficult to get those ten dates under your belt due to anything other than scheduling conflicts, it is probably not worth trying. You have heard of the movie based on the book “He's Just Not That Into You”, right? If you are thinking about talking to your partner, it is important to prepare yourself for the possibility that they may not feel the same way as you do. However, most of the time, if you have gotten this far in your “relationship”, you are likely betting on something safe. Take the pressure off immediately and make sure that the “talk” happens in a natural way.
Just say what you feel and be honest about what you want and need in a relationship.